Thursday with Sokei sensei 2

  • 2020.10.02 Friday
  • 14:26

During my tea ceremony lesson time, I had been helping our family run Kimono shop where is only 5 min away from home on foot and in morning normally there was no chance for work. My loved late uncle came early and enjoy cleaning and smoking at shop which is his over 50 years habit.

Around noon, I came the shop and went to lunch with my uncle. He was my best friend (and maybe still in my heart). Since I had been with him so often after my father past away, I called my old boyfriend (10years long relationship) to "Ojisan" uncle by mistake, he screamed " weird!".

Back to my tea ceremony story, so I did not need to awake up early for work but for the tea ceremony lesson since my teacher said I should come an upper class on every Thursday at 9am so I must wake up early and it was so hard for me. I am so low pressure parson…

Wake up around 6:30am, make a bento for long lesson then bring a some food to my mouth which I cannot eat breakfast with happily early time.. Then change to Kimono.(if I took long time for breakfast so I had so limited time for it! But it made me fast Kimono dressing lesson).  Start my Jimmy small car engine.  Sokei sensei is at different town where is around 30min by car so had to leave around 8am for not become late as new comer. In Japan punctual is fast priority!



Parked my car and open Sokei sensei home door which was always opened beside of night and it shows how Japan is safe and traditional idea is opened for all. “good morning” even no-one answer, I said and walk to one small room which is behind  tea ceremony room where is called Mizuya (kind of back yard for the tea ceremony).  Not get Kimono dirty, I put my Kappogi (kimono apron) and start to prepare tea ceremony lessons. However as I am so beginner so I had to wait orders from Senpai (older students). 

I could not forgot how nervous on the first day of Thursday lesson. I could not sleep well since I was so afraid of over slept and I had to think my tea ceremony lesson hand movements over my dream..



By 9am, all student came. I think it was around 8 student inc me. We bow each other and open a slide door then Sokei sensei in Kimono was sitting (seiza) on her tea ceremony room, we greet her with deepest bow (but must be straight back to show elegance) here is the something lesson day!

Sokei sensei was so keen on bow! It is not so good way to say others " I study tea ceremony" ​by ourselves since sounds "you pround of yourself" but your bow can show without word " you study tea ceremony". My other friends who go to good tea ceremony teacher said same thing.


Thursday with Sokei sensei

  • 2019.02.12 Tuesday
  • 13:41


Dear my loved reader

It took me long time to start to write about tea ceremony teacher even I promise it on my essay about "the tea ceremony"

First of all apologize it and also please be kind to have a look at the essay to understand this blog well. 

Thank you

Feb 2019 Kahori Ochi 


After new year tea ceremony "hatsugama" 2009 with Ms Sokei and her disciple (Uchi deshi, she has more disciple but only us were allowed to come her home to study)



About her family

Ms Sokei Maeda was born in Shibuya  Dogenzaka where is close to Shibuya station as medical doctor's only children in Taisho era (before WW2). 

At this time, still class society and not equal idea. If you were born at doctor house, can imagine how her family was rich. She said never even sharp own pencil since she was surrounded by many maids and they did everything for her.

If she wished, she could go to higher education but she didn’t, neither her parents did not want to her to become a doctor but a Shuji penmanship teacher since they found her talent of it. So her last education is high school but you may know my mother is much younger than her but my mother even could not go a middle school but all her brother went to even high school. Japanese society believed the education is only for men at that time. So we can say Ms Sokei get very high education as women at the time.

Therefor her parents adopted one boy to take over the clinic. Also she said at the time,  if you are rich like doctor,  take care of boy students “shosei”. Let cleaver but poor boy students live their home and give education as well as food necessary items in return they work for the rich people’s staffs (not like maid but more trainee) . We call “Shosei” nowadays disappear but if you read old novels you will find this term. Wiki only Japanese

It is rich people’s duty or joy to support future important parson, seems Japanese old people felt so.  Her house was full with Shosei and seems some of them were interested in Sokei-sensei since I saw one drawing at her house. She said one Shosei made it. The title was ”ojyosan” hard to explain it but Ojyosan sounds like “upper class single lady” from lower class parson. You can still feel classy society.




About my title

Have you ever read it?“Tuesdays with Morriwhich gave me strong memory.  American real story… One professor who suffered ALS met one old student on Tuesdays till his die and communicate what is life. I learned many thing from Ms Sokei through her tea ceremony education so gave the title.

I have started as Sunday student at Ms Sokei tea ceremony lesson at her house. She thought tea ceremony at many places,  city centers, pubic school etc… Going to teacher’s house class is more special we are called “Uchi-deshi” means is more inside student. She has two class at her home tea ceremony room on Sunday and on Thursday. On Sunday, it is for more young ladies and indeed all singles who has a job. Class started at 1pm and kind of more for chatting as you can imagine. I have a good friend there and love to talk with her and others. However one day Ms Sokei asked me to come on Thursday. At that time, I have been working for my mother’s Kimono shop and I could get day off on Thursday too. However, I know Thursday’s class is stricter and almost all student even have certification of very upper class. If you study tea ceremony for long (around over 10 years), you would get the tea ceremony name from tea ceremony official school and all of them hold it. I was so worried. Why I needed to go there? I was the newest student and could not do anything. I might be disturbed Thursday students. All were housewife and retirement men. Have plenty time but I was not…  However I have started feel that chatting at tea ceremony class was not good. And furthermore, I have started to feel Ms Sokei’s Love. Not only strict but feel something “she wants me to learn real tea ceremony”. So I had accepted to change the class day. Even it started from 9am and end at 3pm (sometime more) on Thursday as well as must make a Bento box  on every Thursday.


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